Oh how good and how pleasant it is for (people) to dwell together in unity. What a blessing it is to fellowship with God’s people.

Friendship and sisterhood goes hand in hand. When we allow our flesh to cause us to stumble, we should be willing to forgive one another and move forward. There will be times when situations cause a rift in the sisterhood bond or close friendship. What separates the Christian from the sinner is the Christian is able to say I am sorry and make amends. Sometimes making amends involve going separate ways and agreeing to disagree.

David in the book of Psalms, suggest that we depart from evil and do good always. David advises that we seek to live in peace as peaceful human beings. This is very important for women of color because we have the tendency to betray our friendship and sisterhood, carrying malice in our hearts forever.

It is impossible to be an example to the world when women who are close and professing to be Christians abandon friendships for one reason or the other.

It is harder to admit that we are wrong rather than seek peace by talking and working out situations.

So being open and transparent, I became disappointed when a longtime friend changed the terms of our relationship after 20 years.

I allowed my flesh to tell me that she was being petty.

I was open and honest with her. I have always been open, honest and sisterly to her.

I am asking honest opinions to this question. Should I have reached out to her knowing that I believe I had dealt justly with her?

I believe that Satan wanted to create distance between us again and we gave in to him.

Final question- If I attempted to contact her and she did not respond, should I try again?

Be real and honest but most of all be polite in your reply and use a Biblical reference scripture to support your answers.

I believe that I should reach out, which I did and then pray for her that God would intervene. As believers we should not do as the world do but we should ask ourselves what would Jesus do?

As a Christian, “I have been called to live a higher life – a life of holiness and righteousness.”

I will not walk in a path that is filled with wicked things, I will “suffer painful consequences – one of these consequences can even be death if I permit my flesh to rule me.”

Death is rampart and I want to say to you my sister friend, if God call my life into question, I am ok, I have been a true sister to you and I wish you nothing but happiness.

I will not allow anything to separate me from the Love of Christ Jesus.

I ask you if you think you did the right thing and I was wrong, please forgive me my trespasses so that God will forgive me of mine. You are my sister in Christ, and you will always be. You know who you are.

I am apologizing openly and I hope you know what our friendship meant to me.

As I said before to you, I say the truth to you no matter what.

This time it is in God’s hands.

I pray you are well and you look inside your heart and hear what God says not what you think.

I close with the serenity prayer. I ask God to grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, give me the courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference, Amen